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April 20
In and Out of Jail
As children we learn
to stay safe and survive
by behaving in a way that gets us love.
That is innocent enough.
But, when the ego gets hold of this,
as we get older
we can lose sight of our authentic self
and think that we should never make
those we care about, unhappy.
Welcome to jail.
We learn to not honor
our honest feelings as they arise.
We adopt a false, inauthentic persona,
and get rewarded for it.
We then consistently repress
any feeling that might not please
those we are with.
This repression muscle teaches us
to be afraid, even petrified
of not being loved.
Thus, the mind/body can believe that
it’s number one role
is to protect you from doing anything
which another might consider unloving.
It may do this my limiting the use of your body
every time you want to express
an authentic feeling.
This is all coming from unconscious
repressed emotions.
The way out of jail has two key elements
to work with daily:
- Realize and feel,
that no matter how hard it gets
your matchless worth as love itself
is maintained by the Divine Feminine. - Recognize this repression mechanism
and let Her show you how to
courageously honor, feel,
and express whatever arises in you.
She will bring you home to real Love:
to Herself and yourself
as the one Self.
April 18
Working with Triggers
When we are uncertain
about our innate worth
then we identify with that
which arises in us
that is other than love.
We then repress this feeling
because we can’t access
our foundation of love
to accept it and let it move through.
We believe the emotion is us.
It is too scary and unsafe
to allow it to be present
even for a few moments.
This adds layers of repression
which keeps us stuck
in behaviors which
we then start to blame on
those who trigger us.
When we get at a gut level
that we really are love,
that love is our Being,
then we can more willingly
and courageously feel into
and look at and abide with
that which arises in us
that is other than love.
In this way the non-loving
aspects of our repressed emotions
are freed to move on.
We see triggers as invitations
to feel and honestly express and release
that which is arising in us
that is other than love.
We don’t make the triggers personal
toward another or ourselves.
April 17
Where is Your Primary Focus?
Is your focus more on what is going on
outside of you or inside of you?
Outside of you includes:
people, relationships and objects such as
projects, tasks, situations,
current events, things, money, etc.
Inside of you includes
aspects of consciousness such as:
awareness, personality patterns, ego, your soul,
beliefs, judgments, prejudices, desires, feelings,
repressed emotions, goals, visions, values,
purpose, Divinity, spirituality,
awakening, enlightenment, non-duality, etc.
While they are not mutually exclusive,
if you don’t make what is going on
in your consciousness
your primary focus,
you will run the risk
of being run by your personality,
which is the slow (or fast) path
to limiting your life and to suffering.
This radical approach to life
is resisted by your conditioned mind,
and those relationships that have gotten used to,
and even rely on,
your personality patterns,
be they healthy or unhealthy.
April 14
We are Waves
We are waves within the Ocean of Grace.
We are the way the Ocean shows up.
As a wave we have no life of our own.
We only exist because Ocean exists.
No Ocean. No wave.
Yes Ocean. Yes wave.
Our entire reason for being
is to be this unique form Ocean takes.
We will not be more connected
to Ocean in the future.
We need not fear that Ocean
won’t be there for us,
sustaining us.
Once wave reaches a shoreline
it dissolves back into Ocean
to be reformed anew.
How this happens,
when we will be reformed,
and where we will go,
Ocean only knows.
This is how it is,
how it always has been,
and how it will always be.
April 13
Being Still
Have you found a deep peace,
a soft elation,
in being still?
Stillness may include:
- the physical rest
of not moving, - the mental rest
of being present to the movement of thoughts, - the emotional rest
of relaxing and breathing into
whatever feeling is present, - the soulful rest
of receiving the resonance of Presence,
a simple, intuitive trust
that you can never fall out of Life.
April 10
Your Peace of Heart is on the Line
In our society,
there comes a point for many of us
when periodically we wake up to realize
we have adapted so much to others
that we have lost contact with
what it means to honor and nurture ourselves.
The transition to get this
back in balance
can be petrifying because
your whole life may be unconsciously organized
to sustain your current relationships.
Do it anyway.
Your peace of heart is on the line.
Your other options are
to uselessly try to change others
or to numb yourself to death.
In your humble journey
back to your authentic Self,
notice what you are avoiding dealing with.
What are you afraid might happen
if you dealt with this evasion?
While exploring,
keep your heart aligned
with your deepest truth,
then watch Grace
bring your relationships
into an authentic form that She reveals.
April 9
Being Authentically Us
The only way
we can have an authentic relationship,
is if I am authentically me
and you are authentically you.
Without both of us showing up genuinely,
we are living a delusion.
If either (or both) of us is:
hiding by playing it safe,
avoiding conflict,
blaming the other,
playing the victim,
only living to please the other,
feeling like we can’t be ourselves,
feeling not good enough to be present,
afraid to be honest,
always exaggerating,
then our relationship
will not be real.
Authenticity arrives
as we find and feel and release
the repressed emotions
that are unconsciously
driving these malfunctions.
April 6
You are Safe
The call in these turbulent times
is to be grounded
in the quiet immensity
of your Soul,
and to feel into the awareness
in and around your body.
When you feel this safe sense of Presence,
be willing to revisit a repressed challenging
relationship or situation from your past
that still gives you a charge
of anger, sadness, hurt or fear.
Because you know you are safe
let yourself feel deeply whatever arises.
Stay with the challenging energy.
Give it your full attention.
Open to it. Want to feel it.
Let it arise and move through you.
This making of the unconscious conscious,
lessens the repression juice
and augments your authentic nature.
Doing this regularly,
gradually frees you to
live from and in and as,
Presence.